When anger is in control, sin and the devil can have a field day in our lives. When we're angry it is bad for our health.
God says it's OK to get angry, just don't sin. Everyone gets angry. It’s a normal emotion and there’s probably a good reason why we feel that way.
It's amazing how easily many people get angry and upset by what someone says or does. It can happen to the best of us. We find ourselves completely undone by someone else’s behaviour. It could be anything from someone cutting you off in traffic, to your neighbour shouting at you. Mild to severe, other people’s actions can turn our world upside down.
Keeping short accounts makes for a life full of peace. And that's a truth that will never change.
But anger can be bad if we don't control it. Emotions such as anger and hostility ramp up our "fight for your rights” response. When that happens, stress hormones including adrenaline, speed up our heart rate and breathing.
We get a burst of energy. Our blood vessels tighten. And blood pressure soars.
We’re ready to run for our life or fight an enemy. If this happens often, it causes wear and tear on the artery walls.
Most of the things that we get upset about aren’t our issues. The driver who cut you off? Their driving is not your issue. All you need to worry about is getting safely to your destination. That lazy co-worker who isn’t doing their share of the work? Not your issue. All you need to do is focus on your own good work.
Jesus tells us to not be angry with our brother and to initiate peace with anyone who has a problem with us and to humble ourselves and settle the matter quickly even if we think it’s their fault. Because maturity and wisdom help us realize we aren’t perfect either and there’s always something we can acknowledge—something we need to be forgiven for.
Matt 5:23-26 23 Therefore if you bring your gift to the altar, and there remember that your brother has something against you, 24 leave your gift there before the altar, and go your way. First be reconciled to your brother, and then come and offer your gift. 25 Agree with your adversary quickly, while you are on the way with him, lest your adversary deliver you to the judge, the judge hand you over to the officer, and you be thrown into prison. 26 Assuredly, I say to you, you will by no means get out of there till you have paid the last penny.
There’s danger if we don’t settle a matter quickly. Anger, bitterness and resentment will grow, and we’re subject to a prison; one that won’t let us out until we’ve suffered and agonized; until we’ve paid the full price for our foolish refusal to pursue peace.
Keeping a short account with others means we don’t leave things undone. We don’t let disagreements linger or bitterness grow. Then by doing that, we stay out of that prison in your mind and instead choose a life full of peace every single time.
Eph 4:26-27 In your anger do not sin: Don’t let the sun go down while you are still angry, and do not give the devil a foothold.
Deut 30:19 Today I have given you the choice between life and death, between blessings and curses. Now I call on heaven and earth to witness the choice you make. Oh, that you would choose life, so that you and your descendants might live!
It's always up to us either to react to the situation or to act in God's kind of love. It's totally our choice!